When you reflect on the last year, or the last decade, how do you feel?

Have you been thriving or merely surviving? If it’s been a struggle, then the chances are your Thrive Quotient is low. Your Thrive Quotient measures a number of components of your mindset including specific beliefs, thinking styles, self and social confidence, and attitude.

Here are ten things that thriving people, those with a high Thrive Quotient, do every day.

1. They don’t chase perfect

They recognise that chasing perfect is not reality. They set themselves goals and they do their very best to achieve them, but they don’t beat themselves up if they fall a little short. They know they can learn from mistakes, and try a different approach if needed next time. What is perfect anyway?

2. They create powerful beliefs

Thriving people hold beliefs about themselves that empower them. They believe they have the internal resources required (or they can gain them) to achieve their realistic goals. They don’t believe in “luck”. They can identify, challenge, and change any limiting beliefs they hold that aren’t helping them move towards their desired state. They know their beliefs are not hard-wired. They understand their beliefs are the foundations for thriving.

3. They set themselves goals

They’re not necessarily big audacious goals (but they can be). They set goals and take small steps towards them on a regular basis. These small steps become their new habits. Their beliefs support the goals they set themselves. They feel proud of the consistent effort they put towards achieving their goals. When they suffer a setback, they refocus, and either adjust their goal or set a new one.

4. They balance positivity and optimism with realism

While thriving people are positive and optimistic, they also know that life can sometimes chuck down some brutal weather. And often it’s outside of their control. This is where realism plays an important part. Instead of being totally bowled over by that health issue, job loss, or relationship breakdown, they gather their mindset and begin to refocus. This doesn’t mean they brush sadness (for example) under the carpet; they just don’t sit in the puddle for too long.

5. They’re kind

… to themselves, to others, and to their environment. Small acts of kindness create positive experiences. The more positive experiences you have each day, the more you’ll like you. When you have more positive thoughts about yourself, your self-esteem improves. A healthy self-esteem promotes confidence. Confidence leads to trying out new things, which leads to learning, which leads to all sorts of fun. Kindness … it’s a great ingredient for a new decade.

6. They move and rest their bodies

Thriving people know that physical exercise is great for mental health. But it isn’t the only thing. It’s just one of the ingredients. You could exercise 24/7 but if all the other Thrive Quotient ingredients are missing, then you won’t be thriving.

Resting, or sleeping, is another vital ingredient. Find yourself sleep-deprived and you’ll find yourself not managing your thinking as well as you could.

7. They decide how they’re going to “show up” each day

Having a “to do” list is great for getting things done. However, deciding ahead of time what sort of mindset or attitude you’re bringing to the day, is just as important. Starting the day in a bad mood is your choice and yours alone. No one has decided this for you. Thriving people know this and instead choose how they are going to “show up” for the day ahead. Even if they know the day is going to bring some challenges, they go into the day with the right mindset.

8. They challenge unhelpful thoughts

We’re human. We have thoughts. We have emotions. We create them. We also can decide whether or not we challenge an unhelpful thought. Others can’t make us angry. Those with a high Thrive Quotient know this - so instead of getting angry and giving all their power to that other person, they instead keep their power and stay calm. They manage their emotions.

9. They process experiences positively

We aren’t a product of our experiences. We’re a product of how we process our experiences. Thriving people know that most experiences will have positives and negatives. They choose to look for the positives in experiences and learn from the negatives.

10. They like who they are

They don’t focus on the new wrinkle or grey hair. They don’t pour over Instagram wondering why their life is so sucky compared to others. They don’t compare themselves to others full stop! They know they have faults and work on the “workable” ones such as patience or kindness.

The Thrive Programme teaches you exactly how to put these ten skills into practise plus so much more.

A new decade is here. It’s never too early to learn how to thrive nor is it ever too late. Life is precious and we can make the most of every moment … if we want to.